Through Gilbert Ekezie
This It may sound incredible, but it happened recently in Lagos State during the wedding ceremony of Pastor Oghale Ighele, 29, and Dr Clementina Agbate, 28, which took place in Marcillina’s Place, GRA Ikeja.
There were doubts and reactions from the guests when the officiating minister and presiding bishop of the mission of the Holy Spirit, Charles Ighele, revealed that the bride and groom were virgins at their age until their marriage.
But soon after, many were convinced, having heard directly from the couple. Development was considered a rare feat, especially in today’s computer age where many go missing between 15 and 20 years old.
Speaking to Sunday Sun, the bride, who reportedly joined the Holy Spirit Mission (Happy Family Center) at the age of two, did not mince words when she said she was a virgin and it was a wish she had made while growing up.
The groom also expressed the happiness and fulfillment of getting married as directed by God. “God is my strength, and one thing that has made this possible is the Christian education I have had and I thank God and my parents for it.”
He revealed that there were temptations in many areas, but said the advice had helped him win the battle and took him this far. “While I was growing up my parents kept emphasizing that I needed to be myself and never mess up and I listened to their advice. I tried to make friends who didn’t. would not encourage premarital sex I was also fully involved in church activities and thank God for guiding me.
The bride, making the vow, was one of the best things that would ever happen to her. “I am happy and fulfilled to be married as a virgin, even though it was not an easy thing to do. I made the decision to stay a virgin until I got married when I was a teenager. During this time, I grew up in a Christian home. So I had to keep myself.
She said marrying a virgin at 28 was a challenge, as the temptations and trials grew overwhelming throughout the period. “It wasn’t easy for me. I was individually tempted by my teachers while I was in college. Friends also tried to draw me into fornication, and some men asked me to come out. In fact, I have been through so many challenges. But what guided me was God and my principle.
Agbate advised those who have not yet married to have faith in God because in the end there will surely be successful and happy marriages.
Also, commenting on the couple, one of the officiating ministers who united the couple, Bishop Charles Ighele congratulated them for keeping each other until their wedding, despite the temptations.
The bishop noted that what the new couple have done is exemplary and unusual in today’s computer age.
He explained that it takes strong faith in God, commitment and self-discipline to remain a virgin until the age of 28 and 29.
Bishop Ighele, who is the father of the groom, said the young man was not the only one among his children to have married a virgin.
“These are my children. The one who married last year in the United States of America at age 25 was a virgin. I make them my friends. As I speak, there is a girl that we adopted as a child, she has never had sex before. She is now in her final year of college. When she was in high school she met my wife and told me, Mom, I have feelings for a boy. You know that it is not easy for a child to meet his mother and say such a thing. The reason is that we created an atmosphere of friendship with our children, which is why they were able to tell us what they were going through. The warning I used to give my daughters was that if they were sexually wrong, I wouldn’t want them to be sexually wrong. But, in case they misbehave and get pregnant, I will take care of this child. In fact, they saw love more than the stick. So with that, when they’re tempted, they say no because they don’t disappoint me.
The general overseer urged parents to redefine their values and pass them on to their children. “Parents must be able to know the values they want to pass on to their children and to the next generation. I pray at least once a day for my children and the last generation. I redefined my values, so I try to pass positive values to them. What are the values that I defend? What do I want to earn? What am I passing on? In the end, we will not see the buildings that we have erected. What is that? So, I advise parents to think ahead and be afraid of God in everything they do, so that future generations will be better.
As a member of a polygamous household, Ighele explained that although he did not see love between his parents, he decided that his marriage should be different by loving his wife as the Bible says couples should do it. As a Christian, I try to stay true to the Bible, which is what made many in my church respect me. They know I won’t break the rules even if my child is involved.
He also instructed the new couple to first become friends, to love and cherish each other and always stay together in unity. “The newly married couple should, among other things, be friends first. There is a need for love between them. My wife and I usually go on vacation for fun. I’m 66, my wife is 64 and we are still romantics. We kiss, we kiss and we say I love you. It sets love on fire, otherwise it will go down.
Ighele also warned the couple to avoid working marital relations where the man will always keep the house in order. In many homes today you hear “is my food ready? »« I want to take my bath, is the water ready? »Dad pays school fees, utility bills, rent for the house, and so on. The man plays the traditional functions, the same with the woman. In this situation, the couple doesn’t have much to do with each other except when they go to bed, and the next thing is to shoot, you said what? I said shoot, which is a command “
The national vice president of the Pentecostal Fellowship of Nigeria, Archbishop John Osa-Oni, in his own warning, told the couple to make their home a model where people will go to learn.
He also instructed them to speak, to speak, to be in a room and not in pairs. “They shouldn’t copy what our parents used to do when they had separate bedrooms and beds. They should also share toothpaste and cut their clothes according to their height. The new couple should be happy and not kill themselves for someone.
Osa-Oni, who is also the general overseer of Vinyard Christian Ministries, told the couple to always pray together, “like a family that prays together, stays together. In addition, they must endure and tolerate. In doing so, they will have a happy marriage.
On a related note, the presiding bishop of City Gate International Church, Robertson Akwazi, praised the virtues of the virgin couple for making the church and their families proud.
He said this is what is expected of every gospel believer and called on the couple to continue to keep their faith, so that their marital relationship will flourish.
Akwazi prayed to God to visit the couple with the blessings of marriage, so that they remain peaceful and happy.